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african american men and their daughters living out the father daughter drama
this book traces the lives of the author and other african american women she interviewed about their african american fathers.the author states that the most powerful relationship an african american woman will ever have with a male is the one she has or doesnt have with her father . whether present or absent houston little asserts fathers impact their daughters lives in ways that sometimes defy description.if young african american girls grow up with a loving involved father in her life the young girl seems to do well and lead a balanced life . she doesnt appear to be haunted by serious emotional and physical illnesses.while on the other hand when a young girl does not have any relationship with her father or one that she perceives is less than adequate serious issues may arise . often a relationship that is perceived as less than adequate is as devastating as not having a relationship with her father at all.if a young girls relationship with her father is non existent or less than adequate it is at this point that the drama appears to begin.drama refers to a series of actions reactions that the young girl adolescent soon to be adult female initiates and responds to a result of her perception.perceptions that lead to drama are that the young girl in question believes her father does not care love her . she may also believe that she cant trust anyone especially men . no matter how hard she tries she may also believe shell never be good enough in any tasks she undertakes.these different scenes frames of reference affect the young girl and all those with whom she interacts . its almost as though the young girl has a script from which she takes her cues . often no one with whom she interacts even has a clue that a script even exists.this kind of miscuing or absence of cues for the unsuspecting participants friend husband lover son professional associate more often than not leads to conflictual emotional relationships . other relationships end abruptly the young girl or adolescent or adult has no clue why.some insights into how we construct our inner thinking what these thoughts are based on help us all to negotiate successful relationships . this book explores the authors and other womens perceptions of their drama with their fathers.the effects of the drama misunderstandings and the inability to emotionally connect are explored.hope springs eternal as these women and i look at ways to gradually change the direction of absent or less than adequate relationships between fathers and daughters.finally the writer suggests ways that anyone interested in the health and strength of african american families can help to accomplish that goal.stronger healthier individuals make stronger healthier families . stronger healthier families make stronger healthier communities . everyone stands to benefit .
paperback lightning source inc 2008 isbn13 9781434370464 isbn10 1434370461
book type nf isbn 13 9781434370464 number of pages 80 publisher lightning source inc