Re: Love and faithfulness: A reflection

[Nguyen Minh Hien <hien@lombok.cs.uwm.edu>]

	Cha`o ba.n Vu~, HMVu~, VHLa^m, N.Tuan va` ca'c ba.n,

	Ca'm o'n Vu~ dda~ raise an interesting issue. Mi`nh tha^'y nhu*~ng
analysis giu'~a Toa'n ho.c va` love nhu* mo.i ngu'o'`i dda~ vie^'t tha^.t
 thu' vi. va` kho^ng ke'm pha^`n la~ng ma.ng - ma(.c du` mi`nh pha?i ma^'t
1 lu'c de^? review la.i kie^'n thu'c toa'n va` pha^n bo^' xa'c sua^'t
dde^? co' the^? hie^?u pha^`n na`o y' ma` mo.i nguo`i muo^'n die^~n
gia?i:-). 

	Tro*? ve^` vo*'i ca^u ho?i cu?a (HA)Vu~ ve^` ca^u tra? lo*`i cu?a
co^ ba.n ga'i cu?a mi`nh. Xin nhu*o*`ng lo*`i cho ta'c gia? cu?a ca^u tra?
lo*`i ddo' qua email ma` mi`nh vu*a` nha^.n du'o'.c :

	"...I am glad that you find something and some friends to discuss
things of common sense. If in Viet Nam, this issue should have been
brought out to the forum of SV'97 :-) 

     I'm so surprised and a little bit frightened :-) when my answer re. 
distance and time ...' is now on debate. In fact, people should not look
at only one part of what I said but the orginal full answer should be
reviewed - "Ne^'u ba.n tha^.t su'. ye^u, tin tu'o'?ng va`o do^'i tu'o'.ng
cu?a mi`nh va` trung thu'.c vo'i ngu'o'`i do' thi` ti`nh ye^u se~ ti? le^.
thua^.n vo'i tho'`i gian va` khoa?ng ca'ch".

     The conditions here should be understood as belief and frankness. It
is somehow romantic, but not so caprice and confusing as in Mr. Oscar
Wilde's mind, and of course not an illusion, especially when by God's
arrangement some couples have to stay hundreds of miles apart. In some
circumstances, we have to accept the challenge, and only when love can be
maintained we may have a chance to go further. I thought Du hoc sinh'
should feel happy to know this truth! When you let 'xa mat cach long'
happen, it means that you do not so much care of each other or you don't
want any more. Love can never stay or go unconsciously. 

     Now, look at the opposite side of what we are discussing. A
"day-to-day"  partner may naturally become a habit or an obligation that
forces you to keep it in mind as an item or your workplan. Have you ever
thought of this side? ... "

	Mi`nh cu~ng chia xe? quan die^?m vo*'i co^ ba.n mi`nh vu*a` vie^'t
o*? tre^n. Kho' kha(n, tro*? nga.i ai cu~ng nhi`n tha^'y, nhu*ng cha? le~
chi? vi` the^' ma` chi.u bo' tay nhi`n "Ca'i buo^?i ban dda^`u lu*u
luye^'n a^'y" cu?a mi`nh ta('t da^`n thi` tha^.t buo^`n.  Ba.n VHa?i dda~
co' ly' khi no'i " Nhu*~ng ngu*o*`i ye^u nhau tha^.t su*. thi` the^' na`o
cu~ng ti`m ca'ch dde^? de^'n vo*i' nhau".  Nhu'~ng ca^u chuye^.n ca?m
do^.ng ve^` lo`ng chung thuy? va` ddo*.i cho*` kho^ng chi? co' trong
tie^?u thuye^'t, truye^.n nga('n, phim a?nh ma` ngoa`i ddo*i` thu'.c dda~
co' kho^ng i't nhu*~ng ca^u chuye^.n "co^? ti'ch" la`m mo.i ngu*o*`i ca?m
tha^'y cuo^.c ddo*`i na`y da'ng ye^u ho*n, dda'ng so^'ng ho*n. Mi`nh vu*a`
ddo.c 1 ta^.p truye^.n nga('n cu?a ca'c nha` va(n nu*~ VN (VA, DTH, PTH,
PSH,...) va` ca?m tha^'y vui va` kha^m phu.c, vi` ho*n mo^.t nu*a? so^'
truye^.n nga('n no'i ve^` su*. thuy?  chung, son sa('t cu?a ngu*o*`i phu.
nu*~ trong chie^'n tranh cu~ng nhu* trong tho*`i bi`nh.  Co' ai ddo' dda~
no'i ra(`ng, dduo'.c cho'` ddo'.i cu~ng la` 1 ha.nh phu'c. DDie^`u mi`nh
muo^'n noi' de^'n la` su*. co^' ga('ng, sa'ng ta.o cu?a ca? 2 be^n. Va`
die^`u na`y thi` xin da`nh cho ca'c ba.n ddang ye^u, nhu*~ng ngu'o'`i
trong cuo^.c thu*o*`ng sa'ng suo^'t dde^? ti`m ddu*o*'c thua^.t toa'n
to^'i u*u nha^'t. Ca'c cu. thu?a xu*a co`n vi` ngu*o*`i mi`nh ye^u ma`
"Tam tu*' nu'i cu~ng tre`o, ngu~ lu.c so^ng cu~ng lo^.i", the^' ma` trong
tho*`i da.i cu?a computer science and telecommunication, kho^ng i't
ngu*o*`i dda~ tu*. bao bie^.n 
	" Nay kho^ng phai?  tho*`i cu?a Romeo & Juliet"
dde^? ro^`i 
	"DDa`nh lo`ng tho^i mo^~i ddu'a mo^~i phu*o*ng". 
Ma(.c du` ho. cu~ng tu*. ho?i mi`nh vi` sao 
	"Ta.i anh,
		 ta.i em, 
			tai. va^`ng tra(ng, 
	hay
		ta.i sang DDo^ng kho^ng co`n hoa su*~a nu*~a"
 nhu*ng la.i que^n ho?i chi'nh mi`nh dda~ thu*.c co^' ga('ng he^'t mi`nh
hay chu*a?

	Nhu*~ng "Ho`n vo.ng phu"  cu?a tho*`i xu*a va` tho*`i mo*? cu'?a
co' le~ kho^ng kha'c nhau la` ma^'y. Trong chie^'n tranh, ca'c ba`, ca'c
me., ca'c chi. dda~ 1 mo^.t lo`ng cho*` do*.i cho^`ng, ngu*o*`i ye^u va`
ca? nhu*~ng ngu*o*`i chu*a ki.p mo^.t la^`n ngo?  lo*`i, ho. va^~n tin
ra(`ng du` the^' na`o ddi nu*~a, nha^'t ddi.nh "anh a^'y"  cu~ng se~ ve^`. 
Nhie^`u ngu*o*`i dda~ tro*? ve^` va` cu~ng co' nhu*~ng ngu*o*`i vi~nh
vie^~n kho^ng bao gio*` ve^` nu*~a. Co' nhu*~ng ca^u chuye^.n nghe nhu*
trong huye^`n thoa.i, cuo^i' cu`ng ha.nh phu'c cu~ng dda~ dde^'n vo'i
nhu*~ng ai "bie^'t cho*`, bie^'t ddo*.i". Co' le~ ca'c ba.n se~ no'i, ddo'
la` trong chie^'n tranh. Va^ng, tho*`i bi`nh co' kha'c, kha'c vi` mo.i
ngu'o'`i se~ co' nhie^`u co' ho^.i dde^? ru't nga('n ca'i khoa?ng tho*`i
gian ddo'.i cho` a^'y ddi, ca'i ma` kho' co' the^? la`m ddu'o'.c trong 
chie^'n tranh, de^? kho^ng pha?i ro*i va`o ca'i ca?nh 
	 "Cho*` do*.i ma~i,
		cuo^'i cu`ng Anh/em cu~ng dde^'n" hoa(.c <kho^ng de^'n>
	"Chi? tie^'c mu`a thu vu*`a mo*'i qua ro^`i"
	Chi? "Co`n so't la.i tre^n ba`n	bo^ng cu'c ti'm.
	      Bo^'n ca'nh ta`n, 	
		3 ca'nh sa('p su*?a ro*i".....

	Cho du` the^' na`o ddi nu*~a, ca? mi`nh va` ca? nho'm ba.n "ba?o
thu?" cu?a mi`nh va^~n tin vo*'i ti`nh ye^u thu*.c su*, khoa?ng ca'ch va`
tho*`i gian de^`u la` nhu*~ng ye^'u to^' co' the^? vu*o*.t qua duo*.c vo'i
su*. co^' ga('ng cu?a ca? 2 be^n. (For (HA) Vu~ (va` ca? ca'c ba.n nu*~a),
ne^'u ca^.u co`n chu*a tha^'y thuye^'t phu.c, thi` trong ky` nghi? cu?a
ca^.u o*? VN sa('p to*'i, qua cho*i cu`ng tu.i mi`nh, enjoy "a cup of
yogurt" or "bu'n bo` Hue^'" (Ca'm o*n Anh Dzung(JP) va^~n co`n nho*' mo'n
a(n so*?  tru*o*`ng cu?a bo.n H) va` ... tranh lua^.n tie^'p. 

	 Cheers,

	 MH.