Fwd from Tuan V Nguyen : Quan nie^.m da^n gian ve^` ngu+o+`i dde.p Vie^.t Nam

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Cha`o ca'c ba'c,
Ba`i sau dda^y tu+` "Ngu+o+`i dde.p Vie^.t Nam" (kho^ng bie^'t
la` ba'o hay ta.p chi' hay gi` dda^y) no'i ve^` quan nie^.m da^n gian
ve^` ca'i dde.p cu?a ngu+o+`i phu. nu+~.  Ta'c gia? co' ve? thi'ch ca'i
ca^u:
Nhu+~ng ngu+o+`i tha('t dda'y lu+ng ong
DDa~ khe'o chie^`u cho^`ng, la.i khe'o nuo^i con
va` vie^'t "... da^n gian Vie^.t Nam dda~ nhi`n tha^'y o+? ca'i lu+ng
ong ngu+o+`i thie^'u nu+~ tho^n que^ ca'i quye^'n ru~ nha^'t cu?a su+.
sinh no+?. Mo^.t ca'i lu+ng nhu+ the^', cha('c cha('n se~ co`n u+'ng
vo+'i mo^.t da'ng vo'c dde.p va` mo^.t da'ng ddi uye^?n chuye^?n...
Ho+n the^' nu+~a, ngu+o+`i dda`n o^ng na`o may ma('n la^'y ddu+o+.c
"lu+ng ong" la`m vo+. ca'i cha('c la` se~ ddu+o+.c mo^.t ngu+o+`i vo+.
dda?m, dda'p u+'ng hai "ca'i khe'o" ddu+o+.c coi la` chua^?n dde.p
ne^'t cao nha^'t cu?a ngu+o+`i dde.p Vie^.t Nam vo+'i ddu? ca? co^ng,
dung, ngo^n, ha.nh: ddo' la` khe'o chie^`u cho^`ng, la.i khe'o nuo^i
con. "
Ca'i na`y thi` cha(?ng co' gi` la. la('m.  Theo Ta^y, sa('c
dde.p (hay la` ca'i sexual attractiveness) cu?a ng` phu. nu+~ co'
lie^n quan to+'i ca'i potential ve^` sinh dde? (reproduction) va` de^~
thu+o+ng (cues).  Va` y khoa cu~ng chu+'ng minh su+. tu+o+ng quan
giu+~a ca'i shape, tro.ng lu+o+.ng va` kha? na(ng sinh dde? tu+` la^u
ro^`i.
Ca'i chi? so^' thu+o+`ng du`ng dde^? ddo dda.c sa('c dde.p hay
sexual attractiveness (di.ch la` gi` nhi??) la` waist-to-hip ratio
(vo`ng eo va` mo^ng).  Theo ca'c nha` ta^m ly' ho.c co^? ddie^?n,
ngu+o+`i phu. nu+~ na`o co' ca'i ratio 0.7 la` ngu+o+`i dde.p ly'
tu+o+?ng (ve^` ma(.t physical appearance tho^i).  Ta.i sao va^.y?  Vi`
Waist-to-hip ratio no' la` chi? so^' ve^` su+. pha^n pho^'i cu?a mo+~
(fat) va` do va^.y no' di'nh da'ng nhie^`u to+'i su+. sinh sa?n.
Ngu+o+`i na`o co' nhie^`u mo+~ thi` co' kha? na(ng sinh con nhie^`u.
Ca'c ba'c trai nho+' nhe'! Nhu+ng ddu+`ng nhie^`u mo+~ qua'. :)
Nhu+ng mo+'i dda^y, ma^'y tay A(ng Le^ la`m mo^.t cuo^.c nghie^n
cu+'u ve^` va^'n dde^` na`y, va` ho. cho la` waist-to-hip ratio kho^ng
pha?i la` mo^.t chi? so^' chi'nh xa'c ve^` dde.p. Ca'i chi? so^' chi'nh
xa'c ho+n la` body mass index (BMI), tu+'c la` la^'y weight (kg) chia
cho bi`nh phu+o+ng cu?a chie^`u cao (m), eg, kg/m^2. Ho. la`m thi'
nghie^.m tre^n 44 chi. em va` qua ddo' ho. cho mo^.t phu+o+ng tri`nh
nhu+ sau:
  SA = 4.022xBMI - 0.162 (BMI)^2 + 0.002 (BMI)^3 - 26.6
(SA = sexual attractiveness).
Ba'c na`o gio?i toa'n co' the^? ti`m ca'i BMI sao cho ca'i su+.
ha^'p da^~n cu?a chi. em la` cao nha^'t.  Tha^.t ra, theo thi' nghie^.m
na`y thi` chi. em na`o co' BMI khoa?ng 19 to+'i 20 kg/cm^2 la` ly'
tu+o+?ng.
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Quan nie^.m da^n gian ve^` ngu+o+`i dde.p Vie^.t Nam
Trong khi quan nie^.m ve^` ngu+o+`i dde.p hie^.n dda.i cu?a the^' gio+'i
ho^m nay dda~
ddu+o+.c "chua^?n hoa'" ba(`ng ca'c cuo^.c thi hoa ha^.u toa`n ca^`u va`
trong tu+`ng
quo^'c gia (cuo^.c thi Hoa ha^.u the^' gio+'i ddu+o+.c to^? chu+'c la^`n
dda^`u o+?
Pha^`n Lan na(m 1952. Cuo^.c thi Hoa ha^.u dda^`u tie^n cu?a Vie^.t Nam
ddu+o+.c ba'o
Tie^`n Phong to^? chu+'c 1988 ta.i Ha` No^.i) vo+'i chua^?n dde.p dda~
ddu+o+.c qui ra
tha`nh con so^' cu?a chie^`u cao, c(c)n na(.ng, ba vo`ng ngu+.c - eo - mo^ng
va` ca'c
chi? so^' dda'nh gia' ve? dde.p: "V1-V3", "V3-V2".
"Queetebe"... thi` tu+` tho+`i xa xu+a, trong va(n hoa' da^n gian Vie^.t Nam
dda~ lu+u
ha`nh mo^.t quan nie^.m ve^` ve? dde.p cu?a ngu+o+`i Vie^.t Nam truye^`n
tho^'ng. DDa(.c
bie^.t, quan nie^.m na`y kho^ng he^` ma`ng dde^'n... ca'c tho^ng so^' va`
kho^ng he^`
la^'y ca'c tho^ng so^' la`m tro.ng. Tra'i la.i, du+o+`ng nhu+ no' co`n
ra^'t... la~ng
dda~ng, mo+ ho^`, kho^ng xa'c ddi.nh... Song nga^~m cho cu`ng, ddo' la`
mo^.t quan nie^.m
ve^` ngu+o+`i dde.p Vie^.t Nam tha^.t tinh te^', sang ca?, uye^?n chuye^?n,
tha^.m chi'
ra^'t... th(c)m thuy'. Va` kho^ng ke'm pha^`n hie^.n dda.i\. Va^.y thi`
d(c)n gian Vie^.t
Nam coi ai la` ngu+o+`i dde.p Vie^.t Nam va` ca'i gi` tro+? tha`nh chua^?n
dde.p dde^?
xa'c ddi.nh ddo' la` ngu+o+`i dde.p ?
To^i ti`m tha^'y trong ca dao tu.c ngu+~ Vie^.t Nam hai ca^u ra^'t hay,
trong ddo' ha`m
chu+'a sa^u sa('c mo^.t quan nie^.m tha^?m my~ ro~ ra`ng ve^` ca'i dde.p
rie^ng cu?a
ngu+o+`i dde.p Vie^.t Nam:
Nhu+~ng ngu+o+`i tha('t dda'y lu+ng ong
DDa~ khe'o chie^`u cho^`ng, la.i khe'o nuo^i con
o+? hai ca^u na`y, la` hai chua^?n dde.p ha`i hoa`. No'i theo ngo^n ngu+~
hie^.n dda.i
thi` ngu+o+`i phu. nu+~ Vie^.t ddu+o+.c coi la` dde.p pha?i dde.p ca? hi`nh
thu+'c la^~n
no^.i dung, pha?i dda.t ddu+o+.c ca? ve? dde.p ta^m ho^`n la^~n ve? dde.p
hi`nh the^?.
Co`n no'i theo ngo^n ngu+~ da^n gian ddu+o+.c suy ra tu+` hai ca^u ca dao
tre^n, thi`
ngu+o+`i dde.p Vie^.t Nam a('t ha(?n la` pha?i dde.p ca? ngu+o+`i la^~n
ne^'t.
Nhu+ng ta.i sao, co' nhie^`u ve? dde.p la`m ne^n mo^.t tha^n hi`nh phu. nu+~
dde.p: na`o
khuo^n ma(.t tra'i xoan, na`o ca(.p ma('t bo^` ca^u hoa(.c ma('t la' ra(m
(ma('t sa('c
dao cau), lo^ng ma`y la' lie^~u, ca(.p mo^i ca('n chi? tha('m ma^`u que^'t
tra^`u, co^?
cao ba nga^'n, ro^`i bo+` vai tro`n la(?n, ba`n tay bu'p ma(ng, go't cha^n
ddo? nhu+
son... cu~ng dde^`u ddu+o+.c da^n gian ca ngo+.i va` to^n vinh; nhu+ng
rie^ng trong hai
ca^u na`y, da^n gian la.i chi? coi lu+ng ong mo+'i la` co' gia' va` dde.p
nha^'t.
Thu+.c ra da^n gian dda~ tha^.t tinh ddo+`i, va` ra^'t co' kinh nghie^.m,
la` "lu+ng
vo^'n" kinh nghie^.m cu?a mo^.t da^n to^.c no^ng nghie^.p, la^'y nghe^` la`m
ruo^.ng la`m
nghe^` nuo^i so^'ng ca? da^n to^.c; ne^n ra^'t chi' ly' khi ti`m ra ca'i
ti'n ngu+o+~ng
pho^`n thu+.c dde^` to^n vinh hai cu+? chi? sinh no+?, vo^'n la` ke^'t qua?
su+. ho^n
pho^'i cu?a hai ca(.p ddo^i : DDa^'t -Tro+`i giao pho^'i thi` dde? ra mu`a
ma`ng hoa
tra'i tho'c ga.o, va` Me. - Cha ho^n pho^'i thi` sinh sa?n ra "con dda`n
cha'u ddo^'ng".
Vo+'i ca'i trie^'t ly' mang lo~i nha^n cu?a su+. pho^'i ke^'t a^m du+o+ng
a^'y, da^n gian
Vie^.t Nam dda~ nhi`n tha^'y o+? ca'i lu+ng ong ngu+o+`i thie^'u nu+~ tho^n
que^ ca'i
quye^'n ru~ nha^'t cu?a su+. sinh no+?. Mo^.t ca'i lu+ng nhu+ the^', cha('c
cha('n se~
co`n u+'ng vo+'i mo^.t da'ng vo'c dde.p va` mo^.t da'ng ddi uye^?n
chuye^?n... Ho+n the^'
nu+~a, ngu+o+`i dda`n o^ng na`o may ma('n la^'y ddu+o+.c "lu+ng ong" la`m
vo+. ca'i
cha('c la` se~ ddu+o+.c mo^.t ngu+o+`i vo+. dda?m, dda'p u+'ng hai "ca'i
khe'o" ddu+o+.c
coi la` chua^?n dde.p ne^'t cao nha^'t cu?a ngu+o+`i dde.p Vie^.t Nam vo+'i
ddu? ca?
co^ng, dung, ngo^n, ha.nh: ddo' la` khe'o chie^`u cho^`ng, la.i khe'o nuo^i
con. Ve^`
ca'i khe'o chie^`u cho^`ng, thi` qua? la` ngu+o+`i dde.p Vie^.t Nam cu~ng
kha' va^'t va?,
ddo^i khi sa va`o nhu+~ng ti`nh the^' "tie^'n thoa'i lu+o+~ng nan": giu+~a
khi lu+?a
cha'y co+m so^i, lo+.n ke^u, con kho'c, cho^`ng ddo`i\... to`m tem. a^'y
the^' ma` ho.
va^~n cu+' khe'o le'o che`o cho^'ng e^m xuo^i: "Cho^`ng no'ng thi` vo+.
bo+'t lo+`i\.
Co+m so^i ru't lu+?a cha(?ng ro+i ha.t na`o".
Ro^`i nu+~a "Mo^.t ddie^`u nhi.n, chi'n ddie^`u la`nh". "Xa^'u cha`ng, ho^?
ai" "Chi'n
bo? la`m mu+o+`i", hoa(.c mo^.t ti`nh huo^'ng nhu+o+`ng nhi.n kha'c: Cho^`ng
gia^.n thi`
vo+. la`m la`nh. Mie^.ng cu+o+`i ho+'n ho+? ra(`ng anh gia^.n gi`.
\... Ca`ng nga^~m mo+'i ca`ng tha^'y da^n gian la`... co' ly'! Co' ly'
dde^'n mu+'c, ngay
ca? khi ca'i dde.p kho^ng the^? ddi ddo^i ddu+o+.c vo+'i ca'i ne^'t (vi`
ca'i dde.p
nhie^`u khi cu~ng co`n phu. thuo^.c va`o\... o^ng Gio+`i, hay 12 ba` mu.. Ai
co' the^?
may ma('n nhu+ co^ Kie^`u cu?a Nguye^~n Du ta`i sa('c mu+o+`i pha^n ve.n
mu+o+`i, dda~
dde.p, la.i ddu? ta`i ca^`m, ky`, thi, ho.a\...). Va^.y thi` khi pha?i lu+.a
cho.n la^'y
vo+. trong tru+o+`ng ho+.p ba^'t kha?, da^n gian va^~n cho.n ngu+o+`i dde.p
ne^'t, chu+'
kho^ng cho.n dde.p ngu+o+`i ma` tra('c ne^'t, vo+'i su+. kha(?ng ddi.nh:
ca'i ne^'t
dda'nh che^'t ca'i dde.p...
O^ng gia` nha` va(n Nam Bo^. Tra^`n Kim Tra'c co' le~ cu~ng noi theo chua^?n
dde.p
truye^`n tho^'ng na`y cu?a da^n gian ne^n mo+'i dde^? cho nha^n va^.t anh
cho^`ng trong
mo^.t truye^.n nga('n ra^'t ho'm cu?a o^ng cho.n mo^.t co^ ga'i co' khuo^n
ma(.t kho^ng
dde.p, vo+'i ca(.p ma('t la'c la`m vo+.. Ba.n be` gie^~u co+.t anh ta: sao
cho.n ngu+o+`i
ma(.t mu~i xa^'u xi' dde^'n the^' ma` la^'y la`m vo+. ? Anh ta no'i gi`,
ba.n ddo.c
bie^'t kho^ng ? Anh ta nhu'n vai va` tuye^n bo^' xanh ro+`n: To^i la^'y vo+.
kho^ng la^'y
ca'i ma(.t, ma` to^i la^'y ca'i mi`nh". Lu'c ddo' ba.n be` anh mo+'i\... ta'
hoa? tam
tinh ma` mo+? to ma('t nhi`n: Thi` ra co^ vo+. anh ta co' ca'i tha^n
ngu+o+`i la(?n mi`nh
tra('m dde.p tuye^.t: eo thon, vai tro`n.
Nghi~a la` co^ vo+. anh ta co' ca'i lu+ng ong theo ddu'ng chua^?n dde.p
truye^`n tho^'ng!
Hoa' ra anh ta mo+'i la` ngu+o+`i co' con ma('t tinh ddo+`i dda^'y\.
Ngu+o+`i dde.p Vie^.t Nam

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Tuan V Nguyen
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