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Re: Ca'c loa.i "qua' khi'ch"
From: AnHai Doan <anhai@cs.washington.edu>
>Hi ca'c ba'c,
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>To ba'c DQ: Na`o ai da'm "ma('ng" ba'c. Tui cu~ng ddo^`ng y'
>vo+'i ba'c la` ca^`n improve communication skills. Tuy
>nhie^n, tui kho^ng ddo^`ng y' vo+'i ba'c ve^` n~
>communication skill advice cu?a ba'c vi` tha^'y no' kho^ng
>thu+.c te^' la('m. Ly' do dde^? tha^'y kho^ng thu+.c te^'
>mo^.t pha^`n la` vi` tui cu~ng dda~ thu+? thu+.c hie^.n
>nhu+ng cu~ng kho^ng ddu+o+.c, ma` tui dda~ thuo^.c loa.i
a(n no'i ba(.m tro+.n ro^`i. :-)
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Cha`o ba'c AnHai:
A^'y to^i chu*a kha?o ma` ba'c dda~ khai rui`!
Ba'c la`m mo^.t cu' tu*. phe^ ta`m ta.m ddu*o*.c, va` tu*. pha't hie^.n ra
ddu*o*.c ca'i "nha^n" ga^y ra trouble cho ba'c rui` ddo'!
B'ac ma` Correct ddu*o*.c ca'i "nha^n" ma` ba'c dda~ tu*. chi? thi` ba'c se~
improve your communication skill la(m la('m ddo':-)))))
Bu*~a na`o ghe' Lab. tui nghen, tui se~ lo^i ma'y ra ddo ddo^. no'i do^'i,
no'i thie^.t va` ca'i ba(.m tro*.n cu?a ba'c xem ra sao he'n.
>To ba'c Hoa`: ..
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>La^'y mo^.t chuye^.n trong ca'i shell cu?a mi`nh dde^?
>dda'nh gia' n~ chuye^.n kha'c, ro^`i kha'i qua't hoa' le^n
>tha`nh "thie^'u lo`ng nha^n, the^m gia? hi`nh". Tui tha^'y
>mo+'i chi? co' ba'c la` mo^.t. :-) La^`n sau ne^'u ba'c
>tu+. dda(.t ba?n tha^n ba'c va`o ddi.a vi. mo^.t DHS, va`
>chu' tro.ng ho+n nu+~a va`o suy lua^.n logic (chu+' kho^ng
>pha?i suy lua^.n purely dictated by emotions) thi` chu'ng ta
>se~ ddo+~ ddu+o+.c n` tranh ca~i vo^ bo^?. Ne^'u ba'c kho^ng
>tu+. dda(.t ddu+o+.c ba?n tha^n ba'c va`o ddi.a vi. mo^.t
>DHS dde^? hie^?u ddu+o+.c n~ va^'n dde^` cu?a ho., thi` i't
>ra ba'c cu~ng ne^n de` da(.t ho+n trong ca'ch tranh lua^.n,
>tra'nh n~ kha'i qua't hoa' oversweeping, ro^`i ke^'t lua^.n
>ba(`ng n~ tu+` xu'c pha.m nhu+ "thie^'u lo`ng nha^n, the^m
>gia? hi`nh". La`m nhu+ va^.y co' hay ho gi` dda^u, chi? la`m
>tranh lua^.n giu+~a to^i va` ba'c tha`nh non-constructive.
>
Hi` hi`, dda'ng ra tha^'y cho^~ dda'nh nhau thi` pha?i cha.y xa, vi` dda^`u
cha(?ng pha?i, phai tai! Nhu*ng cho^~ ba'c AnHai cu~ng la` cho^~ bie^'t nhau
(vi` dda~ ga(.p) va` quen (vi` ddi.nh ddi nha^.u vo*'i nhau, khi co' di.p.).
Va` Ba'c Hoa` cu~ng la` cho^~ quen va` bie^'t tu*o*ng tu*. nhu* ba'c AnHai
ne^n bo? ddi kho^ng dda(.ng! DDa`nh ghe' va`o ba`n loa.n (ca'i na`y co' le~
la` ca'i nghie^.p! Nghie^.p GT cha(ng ?) Sau khi phi lo^. da`i nga(~ng cho
security, va` safe na`y tui ba`n loa.n dda^y!
Qua? la` ba'c AnHai ha(ng tha^.t! ne^n de^~ no^?i no'ng! Bi. ba'c HOa` tre^u
la` ba'c AnHai "ma('ng" cho bie^'t, hay dda^y la` lo^'i a(n no'i ba(.m
tro*.n ma` ba'c vu*`a tu*. phe^ xong. Ba'c AnHai o*i! ba'c bo*'t no'ng va`
bo*'t no'i ba(.m tro*n ho*n ti' nu*~a thi` ba'c se~ improve significantly
your communication dda^'y. Co' the^? ba'c no'i kie^?u na`y vo*'i ba` cu.
phu'c ha^.u ne^n ba'c bie^'n ba` ta tha`nh ba` gia` qua' khi'ch ma^'t ga`
va` nghi~ ba'c la` tay thi'ch mo'n "xo^i ga`" ne^n la`m ba` a^'y ma^'t con
ga` ma` ne^n chuye^.n trouble cho ba'c cha(ng?. Tui pha?i can tru*o8'c ke?o
ba'c no'i mo^.t cha(.p vo*'i ba'c Hoa` va` mo^.t so^' ba'c kha'c ba'c la.i
turn ma^'y ba'c na`y tha`nh ngu*o*`i qua' ki'ch va` ta la.i pha?i ddo^?i
thread theo y' ba'c Tua^'n D (DDe^) ddo^?i dde^~ ta`i na`y tha`nh dde^` ta`i
:"ga(.p ngu*o*`i qua' khi'ch trong vnsa" thi` la.i tha ho^` ma` ba`n loa.n.
Cha('c tui thi` se~ kho^ng bi. consider la` ngu*o8`i qua' khi'ch dda^y
nhi?!:-)))
>Tu+o+ng tu+. va^.y, chuye^.n ca^?n tha^.n khi ga(.p ng` la.
>(du` la` VN) no+i co^ng co^.ng tre^n dda^'t My~ la` chuye^.n
>security, kho^ng pha?i la` chuye^.n relationship.
>
CHuye^.n ca^?n tha^.n la` chuye^.n ne^n la`m, nhu*ng a(n no'i kie^?u
defensive thi` kho^ng ne^n vi` ca^?n tha^.n dda^'y! co' the^? ca'ch no'i
defensive na`y ta.i pha^'n ki'ch cho ng` ddo^'i die^.n muo^'n ti`m hie^?u
ta.i sao chuye^.n bi`nh thu*o*`ng ma `ba'c la.i defense ghe^ the^'!
Pha^`n sau na`y to^i kho^ng ba`n loa.n gi`!
DX
>Co`n chuye^.n ba'c tin hay kho^ng tin n~ gi` tui ke^? thi`
>kho^ng quan tro.ng. Nhu+ng ca'ch ba'c ddu+a va^'n dde^` ddo'
>ra tha^.t kho^ng constructive ti' na`o. Hoa(.c ba'c kho^ng
>tin thi` vie^'t thu+ ho?i tui dde^? tui cung ca^'p the^m
>so^' lie^.u va` chu+'ng co+', hoa(.c ba'c tin thi` im,
>hoa(.c ba'c tha^'y kho^ng ddu? du+~ lie^.u dde^? ke^'t
>lua^.n, muo^'n bie^'t the^m, thi` dde^` nghi. tha(?ng nhu+
>va^.y. No'i ddu+o+.c gi` tre^n list tui se~ no'i, n~ gi`
>kho^ng no'i ddu+o+.c tre^n list vi` ly' do privacy thi` tui
>se~ email cho ba'c. Ca^`n gi` ma` ba'c pha?i a(n no'i a^.m
>o+`, a'm chi? the^'? :-)
>
>Ha?i.
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