Re: Tro.ng nam kinh nu+~, Tam to`ng etc.

[Tran Minh Tien <tran@idefix.mpipks-dresden.mpg.de>]

Cha`o ca'c ba'c,

To^i luo^n ca?m tha^'y ro+.n ve^` vie^.c du`ng tu+` cu?a 
ca'c ba'c\. Ne^'u ca'c ba'c kho^ng ro~, Kho^?ng gia'o co'
da.y ngu+o+`i ta "tro.ng nam kinh nu+~" hay kho^ng thi`
ca'c ba'c ddu+`ng co' no'i "dde^. tu+? Kho^?ng gia'o" ...
Ca'c ba'c cu~ng cho+' co' ma` va'c "da^n gian" ra dda^y,
"da^n gian" thi` ddu? loa.i tu+` loa.i gie^'t ngu+o+`i,
tro^.m ca('p dde^'n ba^.c tha'nh nha^n\. Ca'c ba'c cu~ng
cho+' co' ma` mang kinh nghie^.m ca' nha^n ra dda^y, the^'
gio+'i co' 5 ty? ngu+o+`i thi` co' 5 ty? kinh nghie^.m
ca' nha^n\.

Ba^y gio+` tra? lo+`i ca'c  My ve^` "tam to`ng".
Cha('c  cha('n la` to^i hie^?u "to`ng" kha'c ba'c
nhie^`u la('m. Nhu+ng ba'c muo^'n hie^?u the^' thi`
tu`y ba'c. 

* To`ng phu.: va^ng lo+`i cha me. (kho^ng co' vie^'t
ma^~u va`o dda^y, nhu+ng phu-phu. la` 1 trong 5 lua^n,
ne^n va^ng lo+`i cha tu+'c la` va^ng lo+`i me.). Va^ng
lo+`i kho^ng co' nghi~a cha me. ba?o che^'t thi` pha?i
che^'t\. Ca'c ba'c co' the^? ddo.c chuye^.n ve^` Ta(ng
Sa^m thi` ro~\.

* To`ng phu: cu`ng vo+'i cho^`ng\. Co' nghi~a la^'y cho^`ng
thi` pha?i cu`ng cho^`ng xa^y du+.ng gia ddi`nh, cho+'
kho^ng pha?i la^'y cho^`ng chi? lo ca'i tha^n mi`nh, tha^y
ke^. gia ddi`nh\.

* To`ng tu+?: nuo^i con. Cho^`ng che^'t thi` pha?i thay cho^`ng
nuo^i con, cho+' kho^ng pha?i qua(?ng con lie^'m la' ngoa`i
cho+. dde^? ddi vo+'i giai\. Kho^ng co' ai ca^'m phu. nu+~
ta'i gia' khi cho^`ng che^'t ca?, nhu+ng co' la^'y cho^`ng
mo+'i thi` va^~n pha?i co' tra'ch nhie^.m nuo^i con cho^`ng\.

Tuy va^.y Nho gia'o co' pha^n bie^.t nam nu+~\. Ma.nh tu+?
ba?o "phu phu. pha^n bie^.t", co' nghi~a la` cho^`ng pha?i
ra cho^`ng, vo+. pha?i ra vo+., kho^ng co' lo^.n xo^.n lung
tung, vi' nhu+ khi la`m ti`nh thi` cho^`ng pha?i la` cho^`ng,
vo+. pha?i la` vo+., kho^ng the^? thay ddo^?i cho nhau ddu+o+.c\.
Tu+. nhie^n dda~ pha^n bie^.t nam, nu+~ thi` xa~ ho^.i cu~ng
pha?i pha^n bie^.t nam, nu+~, kho^ng the^? dde^? nam la`m nu+~,
nu+~ la`m nam ddu+o+.c. Pha^n bie^.t nam nu+~ kho^ng co' nghi~a
la` tro.ng nam khinh nu+~\.

Tra^`n Minh Tie^'n